My Girls Call Him Dad and I Call Them Blessed

Saturday, June 16, 2018
One of my greatest dreams in life was to be a mom.  I journaled about it as a young woman, I wrote to my one-day daughter while I was still single and a long way from finding my spouse, and I prayed for it.  I even joked that if I didn't find a husband, I'd still find a way to be a mom.  The funny thing about that last statement is that I made that joke (serious as I was) to John before we even began dating.  Some men might have run, he had a few second thoughts, but he didn't let my desire to be a mom scare him and two years after we were married, we welcomed our first-born daughter into the world.
Katie

Because I always knew I wanted to have a family, I was always mindful of the men I dated...making sure they would be good prospective fathers.  I didn't have too wait long before I was sure John would qualify as a great dad.....his kind and selfless ways, his gentleness, his intelligence and strong work ethic, and most of all his ability to love and express that love.  Of course, the fact that he also wanted kids was an important prerequisite.  And as much as I knew he'd make a great dad, it wasn't until he became one that I realized how far he surpassed my greatest expectations.
Katie
Katie

Katie was a colicky baby.  As a stay-at-home mom, I can remember meeting John at the door at the end of a trying day and handing him 'his' fussy baby.  I'd nearly be in tears, questioning my choices because I knew I was a great secretary but maybe I wasn't such a great mom.  John, after a long day at work, would take Katie from me and hold her close, swaying back and forth in his calm and caring way and soothe her angry tummy.  Every night he'd put her to bed reciting "Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep" followed by a rendition of "Now it's time to go to sleep, good night, sleep tight......".  He was a hands-on dad from the very beginning; no job was out of his capacity as dad.  When Katie was diagnosed with Type I diabetes at 10 months of age, we had to spend two weeks in Ellis Hospital and a week at the Joslin Diabetes Clinic in Boston.  John was all in.....spending nights at the hospital, learning about diabetes, doing shots and finger sticks.  Thank God I had chosen my husband wisely because not all dads might have been able to stand up to this challenge.  In the coming years, there'd be nights that Katie would spend in the hospital - for a low, or a virus...it was John who mostly stayed with her while I stayed  home with Laura.  Many kids favor their mom when it comes to comfort and cuddles, but that was never the case with my girls.  Daddy was always just as good and sometimes better when someone needed soothing or reassurance.
John, newborn Laura and big sister, Katie


When I delivered Laura complications kept me in the hospital for about 5 days.  Laura was jaundiced and had to stay too, so John took time from work to stay home with Katie, managing her diabetes, her meals, getting her to preschool and keeping her from being too sad that mommy wasn't there.  A chaplain who visited me in the hospital told me that having a second child wasn't twice as much work....it was much more than that.  He was right, but it was ok because John was 'all in' and shared in the work as much as he shared in the fun.  It's a good thing too because now when Katie had a low or a seizure, there was another little life to tend to at the same time.  I'm sure single parents manage, but I'm grateful I didn't have to.


Katie

John isn't what you'd call a man's man.  He didn't 'need' a son to mold and fulfill his goals or emulate him.  He was always happy with daughters.  He's not the macho type so he played Barbies and ponies as happily as he rode bikes or pitched a baseball.  Not only did he support our girls love of dance, he participated in it by dancing with the dads in every recital.  John made sure the girls knew God, not only on Sunday mornings but in their daily life as well, not just at evening prayer but in his teaching them about goodness, kindness, morals and values.  He continues teaching them even today, although he does it through his actions more than his words. John was always clear about his expectations when it came to right and wrong, but since he was the quieter parent, it was me who was the disciplinarian.  There were times when I envied that and wished he were the bad guy once in a while.  John taught the girls frugality, how to do without, to not be wasteful or spend more than you earned.  He didn't bark, but he could certainly do his share of preaching even though it was always done in a calm and controlled manner.  Although there was a time or two when he was forced out of his normal tone.
Katie

Laura
Laura

John may be a man of few words and there's one word that is missing from his vocabulary and that word is 'no'.   While he never spoiled or catered when it came to luxuries, when it came to our girls needing him, he never says no.  He accompanied them on school trips, drove them anywhere they needed to go, helped them with school projects, you name it, he did it.  You could say all dads do this and maybe so, but John does things above and beyond.  For instance, I remember a night when Katie in her early 20's was still living at home but working as a visiting nurse.  She was on-call that night and at about 3:00 am she was called to a patient's home for a wound vac that stopped working.  It was a blizzard out and the patient was a single man, so John got out of bed and drove Katie on this normally 30 min. drive in the middle of the night and waited in the car while she took care of the patient.  He did that and thought nothing of it.  That can-do attitude carried over to him driving 13 hrs. to Indiana several times over three years, because the people he loved were waiting on the end of that long car ride. That's always how it goes....no matter how inconvenient, how tiring.... he does it, without complaint, without remembering or reminding them ever again that he made sacrifices for them....because for John...that's just what dads do for their kids.



Of course as the girls grew up, their need of dad didn't diminish, nor did his love or admiration.  He attended one high school graduation with a broken ankle, another with a herniated disc.  He moved them into dorm rooms and apartments.  He had serious talks with boyfriends, helped escort a couple out the door and eventually welcomed worthy men into their permanent place in the family.  And as time passed, John's immense love was passed down to his lucky grandchildren.
Welcoming Elena Maria!

Welcome Braelyn Lilly!

And then a little boy....Alexander Joseph.

Like with our girls, John is a man without limits...limits on his love, his energy, his time and his wallet.  Whether it's going down a slide with a fearful toddler, sledding down the hill with a squealing preschooler, or seeing a moving with an adventurous 7 yr old, John is always there for them.  He's ready for impromptu daycare pick-ups, drug store runs for emergency meds, babysitting and bowling, John is the grandpa that everyone can count on every....single....time, day or night, sun or snow he's like the post office motto, he never disappoints.  He even still comes to the rescue for Katie's lows at times!
Elena
Grandpa & Elena

Grandpa & Braelyn

Elena

Grandpa, the Mystery Reader in Elena's class





The dictionary says a father is a man who has begotten a child, but a father is so much more, John is so much more.  Our girls certainly love John and they absolutely admire, respect and appreciate him, but I don't think they'll really understand the depth of their blessing and gratitude until they're older.  I am sure they won't forget all these things...and the many more I could have included.....but I wanted to write this so that one day our grandchildren will know what a great dad their grandfather was to their mom.  I want them to be inspired to find a man like him to father their children, a man who puts himself last, each and every day, a man who loves God and lives his life following His teachings.  I want them to see such men do exist and that they shouldn't settle for something less.  I want Alex  to aspire to be this kind of  dad himself, and I want my son-in-laws to be this selfless.

I hit the jackpot when it comes to picking a man to father my children, no doubt about it.  I'm blessed and our family is blessed to be able to call him ours.  It is because of him and his unselfish love that our girls are who they are today and the mothers they are able to be.  Today, on this Father's Day.....our 40th Wedding Anniversary....I say thank you to this incredible man who gave me the greatest gift, my greatest dream.  You are everything and more than I could have hoped for and our family is so lucky to know your love.
I wasn't just blessed in finding a great man to father my children, I was blessed to have a great dad!  To read about him, click on the following link to read my earlier blog post about my wonderful dad:

Fabulous Felines Frolicking the Streets of Catskill - Cat'n Around Catskill 2018

Wednesday, June 13, 2018
From artsy owls to creative cats, Greene County is decorated with critters galore!  In the past week we've traveled to Coxsackie to hunt down owls, to Cairo to hunt bears (whew, that was a challenge-blog post to come), and last friday to Catskill to round up the cats.  It was a tough job but someone had to do it!  We found all 50 bears, 50 cats and 52 owls, and all I can say is, "WOW".  So much creative genius out there by so many talented artist!  I can't wait for you to see them all.

When our granddaughter was living in Indiana, I was constantly wishing she were here to take on our excursions!  Now that she's living in NY again, she's a great addition to our adventures.  When I asked her if she'd like to accompany us to Catskill to find the cats, there was no hesitation.  She was all in!   I gave her one of my cameras and off we went to round up 50 cats!  In Catskill, the cats are displayed mostly on Main Street, with about a dozen just off the main drag.  Elena and I walked up one side and down the other of Main Street and John drove along in case we needed a rest or some shade.  This is the 12th year for the Cat'n Around Catskill exhibit, our third year photographing it, and the first year we found all 50 cats. To be fair....it's the first year we were determined to find all 50.  Some of the artists participate in more than one exhibit, and often participate year after year.  If you haven't already seen my post on the Coxsackie Owls....there'll be a link at the end of this post.  But without further ado....let me present the 2018 Cat'n Around Catskill Cats!!! (Like the owl post, I'll feature some of my favorite cats here in the post and the entire collection, with some detailed close-ups, will appear on my Facebook Page soon.


Photo by Elena






Wait till you see the back of this one!!!! Holy Cow!




Gorgeous, aren't they? And that's just a handful of them! For anyone reading who's new to the Cat'n Around Catskill exhibit, the cats are sponsored by local businesses, painted by amazing artists, placed on display from Memorial Day until Labor Day then auctioned off at a gala.  The monies raised benefit a number of local organizations.  Another cool thing.... each town shares one of 'their' animals with the other exhibiting towns, so you'll find a Coxsackie owl and a Catskill cat on display in Cairo among the bears, a Cairo bear and Coxsackie owl on display in Catskill and of course a Cairo bear and a Catskill cat in Coxsackie.  Here's the visiting cat on display in Cairo:
 And appropriately created.....A Catskill cat/owl on display in Coxsackie!

Trust me, these aren't the only magnificent cats on display.  Hop on over to my Facebook Page tomorrow and check out the full collection and some amazing close-up details .  If you head to Catskill to do your own scavenger hunt, have a little lunch at the New York Restaurant, followed by a little ice cream at Cone-E-Island Ice Cream!  Beware the servings are mammoth...I couldn't finish my baby cone, but the ice cream is amazing.  Each town has a detailed map with directions to each and every animal on display.  Maps are available at sponsoring businesses and all around town. Thank you to all the artists for sharing your time and talent for this great cause.  Come back next time when I'll share the bears of Cairo!  It took us about 6 hours to find them all, but what fun it was and what fun bears we found!  Thanks for visiting and don't forget to share.
https://www.facebook.com/catnaroundcatskill/
Post Script:  When I was putting together the full album of all 50 cats, I realized we did not, in fact, find all the cats.  :(   We missed one on a side street, so if you go, look at the map carefully!

Oh Give Me A Home Where The Buffalo Roam....Cruisin' the Backroads of Carlisle

Wednesday, June 6, 2018
Back in February I wrote a post entitled, 'Revisiting the Rural Landscape of Carlisle NY'.  It was a big hit among my readers, probably because they love the scenery there as much as we do.  A couple weeks ago we decided to take a drive to Schoharie County and check out Carlisle when it isn't snow covered for a change and boy, am I glad we did.  Like the rest of Schoharie County, the area of Carlisle and Seward, is one massive green canvas dotted with farms, farm houses, livestock and expansive fields as far as the eye can see.

One of the most magical sights, aside from the expansive landscape, is the herd of buffalo at the local buffalo farm we discovered years ago on our first accidental visit. I've never been to the mid-west, so seeing a herd of buffalo isn't exactly common place, nor is it any less exciting the second or third time.  This post doesn't need words, so I won't waste my time or yours when photos are all that's necessary to tell the story of this beautiful land.





















February 2018 - Beautiful in every season!



Beautiful, right? I'm not saying cities aren't special or interesting but I'm also not denying that I'm a country girl through and through. I may not have an interest in living anywhere but in the suburbs, but take me out on the back roads in the country any day and I know I'll come home restored, refreshed and thankful for the masterpiece we call Earth.
I hope you enjoyed the last post featuring the Coxsackie owls......talk about a masterpiece!!!  This weekend I hope to get to Cairo or Catskill to capture the 50 Cat 'n Around Catksill cats and maybe the Cairo bears too.  So stay tuned for those.  Thanks for stopping by Life As I See It.  I hope you'll think about taking your own dirt road trip sometime soon!
To see my previous posts featuring Carlisle:
Don't forget, you can see many more posts like these by checking out my Directory under the Category-New York.  Happy travels!

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